Thursday, April 15, 2010

What the best talkers have in common

Here is a excerpt from the book "How to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere" by Larry King.
  1. They look at things from a new angle, taking unexpected points of view on familiar subjects.
  2. They have broad horizons. They think about, and talk about, a wide range of issues and experiences beyond their own daily lives.
  3. They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they're doing with their lives and an interest in what you're saying to them at that moment.
  4. They don't talk about themselves all the time.
  5. They are curious. They ask "Why?" They want to know more about what you're telling them.
  6. They empathize. They try to put themselves in your place, to relate to what you're saying.
  7. They have a sense of humor. And they don't mind using it on themselves. Infact, the best conversationalists frequently tell stories on themselves.
  8. They have their own style of talking.
Keep talking.

2 comments:

  1. Great take away points Saqib!
    Thanks:)

    About the 7th point. Humor:
    As far as my study on communication and experience are concerned, I've found that one should not use humor if not really good at that. Most of the time people really make discomfort others through their poor sense of humor. I don't mean by dirty jokes here;)

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  2. You are right. Good humor is not as easy one might think. You should "practice" humor with close friends and family who can immediately kick you on bad humor and ask you get better without any diplomacy.

    This (4th) chapter is all about these points and expanded explanation and I really enjoyed it.

    Full review is still pending as I promised.

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